[18:06] When you are searching for a therapist or counselor, make sure that they are self-regulated. A lot of therapists get into this work to sort out their own stuff and they end up passing it along to their clients.
[21:12] When you have gone through your own self-regulation work, you are able to trust yourself more, and not give yourself away for connection. You have more boundaries, are more grounded, and have a better idea of who you want to be instead of having the environment around you squeeze you into something you’ve learned in your family.
[24:52] The more you know your family history, the more well-equipped you can be with your own healing.